Undoing the Elephant Mindset is a 10 day challenge designed to help you identify the false boundaries you’ve created in your own life, recognize the deeper reasons you stop yourself from stepping outside those boundaries, and then break free from the ties that hold you back from living a life you are passionate about. What you’ll need: a notebook or blog or computer, a desire to reach for more in your life, and an open mind.
Day Two: Ok. So You’re the Elephant. What Now?
Yesterday you identified something you’ve always wanted to do but haven’t. How was the free writing? Did you freak yourself out a little bit?
You just might have. And you probably also realized that you do in fact have an elephant mindset when it comes to your dreams (which are now called goals).
You need undo those false boundaries that are keeping you from taking a chance or two. Answer these challenge questions first:
*If you attempted your goal today, even by taking one tiny step towards it, what would be the worst thing that could potentially happen? Let’s think absolutely, positively worst-case scenario here. Scare yourself a little. Imagine the thing that worries you the most. What’s your thought process? Write about that for 5 minutes.
*Now, write for 5 minutes about the best case scenario. Say you want to start a wedding photography business. If you just imagined the worst thing that could happen if you started taking steps towards that goal (financial insecurity, not being good enough, etc), now think about the best thing that could happen. What if you went onto Amazon, browsed cameras, and found the one you really, really wanted on sale. With free shipping. And an extra lens. Plus a spare battery. Well, that would be awesome, right? Write your best case scenario, or something positive that could come from taking a step towards your goal.
This exercise will do two things: it will show you exactly what the false boundaries are in your mind. There right there on paper now. Look at them. Check ‘em out. Laugh at them a little. They’re kind of ridiculous, aren’t they? They lose a bit of power on paper.
This exercise will also show you the flip side of the false boundary coin. How often do you think about the great things that could result from taking a chance on your goal? Probably not as often as you think about all the things that could go wrong. It’s easy to get caught up in saying no; when we say no over and over to ourselves, we prevent anyone else from saying no to us. To keep ourselves saying no, we create boundaries, affirm them in our mind, believe them, and thus give power to them, which takes power away from us.
To wrap up this challenge, take another 5- 10 minutes (or more!) to answer this question: Are these boundaries that I’ve created around my goal realistic? Or am I just trying to protect myself? If it’s the latter, write about what you’re protecting yourself from. Your answer may surprise you.
If you feel up to sharing, please leave a comment below. You can either write your entire day 1 challenge in the comments, or just give us an overview of your goal and some of the main points you wrote about. See you tomorrow for more Undoing the Elephant Mindset!